When I was learning to fly, I pushed the stick in the direction of the drooping wing. After a while, it became second nature, and I did it automatically. Also, instead of looking over my shoulder, I would pivot one of my feet in the direction the plane was heading. For instance, if the plane was heading from left to right, I would pivot my right foot to the right. This gave me a point of reference without feeling like I was playing Twister. Actually I only remember doing this for landings. When I was "three mistakes high", I was more relaxed and gradually learned to correct input mistakes without worrying about crashing. I quess I quit pivoting my foot as my hand muscle memory developed.

But, the best thing I ever did was download the FMS flight sim. It really accelerated my comfort level with the controls. Not long after, I was doing split S's, cubans, hammerheads, inverted flight, etc. I'm not tearing up the skies, but I'm having a lot more fun.