No flames -but you missed the point.
the totalweight of the aileron means nothing -- it is the weight on a moment arm that causes the problem - I lighten ailerons as much as I can -- then add back weight -in a balance setup -
This reduces the servo load.
Here is a simple test.
hold a yardstick in you hand - by one end-- add a small lump of clay to the end close to your hand - - feel the weight - now move that lump to the extreme end of the sticjk - obviously the weight feels much heavier.
this is the problem (in example) of the model ailerons .
The weight increased by the moment arm caused some pretty nasty forces - when vibrating or moving quickly.