There is a book I read, "Your Erroneous Zones" by some pop psychology guy whose name I forget. I didn't read the book for a long time because I thought the title was, "Your Erogenous Zones". Figured I alredy knew about those. His thesis is something like; it is wrong to say that d- aiplane made me mad. The fact is, my emotions are self-generated, and I made myself mad in response to something about the airplane. He argues that you should control yourself, not let outside events or people control you. I thought it was a good read, and it might be of help to some who have problems with outside events jerking them around.