You can't have a safe and successful club without rules. Every club I've ever joined required me to read the rules and sign a form stating that I understood them. If there are members who think that rules are for other people, but not for them, then they should no longer be members. Period. They can go fly at some rogue field. The future of your club depends on the enforcement of its rules. How to enforce them is up to each club, but it becomes clear pretty soon who the self-centered, mentally challenged jerks are, and every club seems to have at least one or two.

To put it another way, when someone makes the conscious decision to join a club and pay the membership fee they are entering a social contract with the other members (even if they don't think they are). The problem is that some people are simply incapable of comprehending the concept of the common good. Sure, they like the fact that the field has tables, chairs and a shelter; that the grass is cut and the portajohn is maintained, but it's beyond their abilities to realize that other club members made all that available for them to use. It really makes you wonder why on earth they join clubs in the first place.

David