RE: how well do flight sims replace trainers?
From what I've seen/experienced, if you have some simulator experience, you can typically solo in 3-6 flights with an instructor. Without a sim, you may have many more flights before you solo, maybe 10-20 or more depending on how often you can get an instructor to take you up.
The sim won't replace training with an instructor, but it will accelerate your learning when you are first starting out.