Jeremy, if this is your first electric there is a learning curve involved.

It sounds like your motor is drawing a lot more current than it should based on the fact that you say the motor gets hot. Also, it sounds like your ESC is reaching LVC since you can regain motor control after bringing the throttle back to zero which resets the LVC.

Do you have a wattmeter?

This is the single most important piece of test equipment for electric flight. Successful e-fligh is based on the proper combination of motor, ESC, and prop. Your motor and ESC have specific current ratings which shouldn't be exceeded which easily can be done with an incorrect prop.

Don't give up on e-flight too quickly. At least you have the flying experience. Just think of all us newb's just getting into e-flight with no electronic or flying experience...

Just hang in there, my man... You'll eventually get it all together.