RE: Is this patience ?
I have a little different look on the hobby than most..
I like my arfs for what they are, but its really about the building. The real change as I see it in the hobby is this... When it was tough, build it yourself or pay A LOT to have it done for you... the group was different. People that flew all had one thing in common, this burning addiction, almost obsession with airplanes. No amount of crashing or anything else will kill it. Sometimes you have had enough and need to step back ..but in that group of people its still there, but they might quit the hobby.
Many newer fliers are looking for satisfaction... thats why the plane is unimportant and can look exactly like everyone elses..as long as it GIVES them that satisfaction. I think the reason 3D is popular is that its like juggling, it has no real value or seemingly reason to exsist...but it is still very satisfying to hone the skill ..on some basic level it pleases you enough to want to improve and take it to the next level...It definately teaches your hands and brain to work together almost like a musicians...
I know many will disagree with me on this, but I think you have to let some people crash to learn, only the fire or lack there of will determine if they stay with it..