Its amazing how that works. I remember back in my mid teens my first Citabria landing, I was holding the stick super tight (thought I was a fighter pilot) and could not understand why I kept hitting the tail wheel first....pissed me off. My Dad in the back seat let me do it all morning too, we had lunch then back at it again. As we started out again he just said "just try holding the stick with two fingers" (thumb and forefinger)....it was like magic. On the way home I asked him why the heck he didn't tell me this after the first one, he just smiled and said "well, now you know". I guess that was my first lesson in over controlling an aircraft.