RE: what type of solder to use
Unless you are experienced with resin core solder for mechanical joints, i strongly advise against even trying it, especially if what you are setting up is for a control surface. You will be asking for disaster. Use the Stay Brite and you will not be sorry,,, cheap insurance. Kmot is right a regular (good) soldering iron in the 120-140 watt range will be fine. A high heat flame torch type is required for true silver soldering, not the case here.