Regarding the flare - Landings are my favorite part of flying RC and the flare, as I learned taking full scale lessons, is the airplane is flown to a near stall, progressively adding up elevator so you time the stall as the wheels touch and you roll out. It's a timing thing.

A friend of mine was a Navy pilot and they were taught in Navy flight school to fly it to the deck, including flying to the runway, they weren't taught to stall.

But I think general RC is much more suited to stall landings, and that's exactly what the flare is, a progression of up elevator sometimes with a final full up, keeping the airplane in the air until the last possible moment, and when it's timed right, it's beautiful. Every landing is different, which is what makes landings so much fun.

An occasional issue I have with landings may be something that relates to the OP - sometimes my eyes get so locked into the airplane coming in, like at a one or two feet in the air for an extended period of time, it's like my eyes are hypnotized and in those moments my eyes can't discern the difference of the airplane moving toward me or away. It's not a dangerous thing, I know the plane is coming toward me, but it's funny how your eyes can play tricks on you.