Hi,
First, I feel your pain, have patience, get to a local club, it will get better if you get a more experienced flier to help you(There i go again sounding like the guys I used to silently curse when I was new so many.. um weeks ago?

Actually its been about a year since I soloed)
Second, consider this: If they made it much easier how many of those not so intelligent folks you mention would go buy everything, and go fly on there own in a totally innapropriate area and get gurt or hurt someone? The difficulty, as it has been said, is part of the enjoyment. It also forces a new person to get at least a little help before going it alone. (Too bad more people who fly arent willing to help the new guy more) After all, How many things did you ever take up that were easy, and you still enjoy them after a time?
I encourage you to step back, take a deep breath, and go at it again slowly, let each minor inconvenience (Dagnabit this wont fit now I need ANOTHER tool/part/device!) become a learning experience, and a challenge you enjoy acomplishing. If you do this, I promise you will enjoy the hobby as much as most of us do.
Oh yea, welcome to the addiction.
RC club meeting: "Hi, my name is Terry and Im addicted to RC airplanes"