One of the very best ways to overcome the shakes is to fly with acobber (buddy)who is very experienced. Ask him (or her) to stand with you. When you get into a predicament, your cbber will quietly say " Lift the nose a little, feed in a touch more power". His gentle voice is wonderful to calm your nerves and get you backon track. It is not a disgrace to ask for your cobber to stand by by you, it is using your brain! Pride has killed many RC planes, more than you can evercount. If all the "elite"members of your club see you with your cobber standing alongside with you, they wont knock you for it. Instead, they will admire your attitude and some of them will even wish theycould do the same if it was not for their stupid pride.
In the last ten yearsthe only plane I have flown with an engine has beena 36" span 049 powered two channel job and only 3 flights. Within the next few weeks I will be launching my newest 45 powered plane but I have to fly on my own. My cobber will be there to help me but hecannot fly at all. He will be my ground crew only.
When I fly, I imagine myself as being in the cockpitand flying from there. Every movement of the sticks is a deliberate move to make the plane conform to exactly what I want. I know if it's going to crash, it willdo so'cos of gross pilot error. I fly with extreme determination. Every manouvre is even forcefully carried out. However, all my flying is done within "Suviteril modo, fortiter en re!" which means, "An iron hand in a velvet glove". This is the way I fly and I love it. I will let you all know how the maiden flight goes when it's done.

Wedge