Gray.... You are so right. We all learn differently from different instructors.. the benefit for new-comers to take heed... you gain an awful lot from the experience from others. It all boils down to what works for the individual.
There are some that have an on-off switch rather than a proportional throttle...

and don't need to worry about throttle trim, I'm sure we've all seen them fly. Then there are the more conservative of us that DO trim our controls from time to time.
If you trim it right, though, you should be able to make a turn, head straight across the field, and let go of the sticks going "hands off" and it should do nothing but fly straight and level. If you do that, then, in my humble opinion, you're trimmed correctly.
CGr.