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there are always jerk's no matter where go!!
some place's worse than other's . If i were you and your wife ,i would continue to go to the track
that were going to and show them that you can compete with them !!! i would bet they lay off
in a hurry if you come in and start giving them a run for their money!!!
if not , i would find another place to race. sometimes you just have to move on and try again
i would hate to see it discourage you or your wife from racing, sounds like if you could
place fifth in your first race (or set of races), you could really compete!!