OK I'm going with the concensus on all the "experts"  A Stick it is Great Planes has the Electro Stick out 

I think I want to order that one and give it a go  I will have one of the guys at the field on the Trainer Switch for a couple of rounds If it flys like the sim in Real Flight, I think I can handle it if I dont get the ol guy jitters  flying these things makes me feel like I was playing  just before one of big football games in high school. Butterflys galore!

Thanks for all the words of advice, experience and wisdom I need all the help I can beg and borrow