I have a 9.5t BL motor, what is a good starting point to gear my pinion and spur so it doesn't heat up?

Would help if we knew what car ???

start with stock settings for the car, check manual, then deside what type of racing you plan on doing

oh sorry, i have a tt01D. i don't know the gear setting on it stock -_-" I want to be able to do like drift, and high speed racing, not competition or anything.

The 19T/61T Gearing you have now should be OK