I think a good way to start is to join a club..Get an instructor..Allow him to help you pick your first plane to train on...Often clubs will have a loaner all set up and ready for you to train on but if not the instructor probably has a plane or two that he prefers to train with and you will get the most out of your training that way...It will probably be an ARF...Then Get yourself a Kit to build..Something simple like a Stick or a 4 Star or a Tiger...I would maybe chose a high wing tri gear something like a Sig LT40 or a Kadet of some type..That way while you are learning to fly you can be learning to build too and your second plane will be ready when you are... Getting a simulator is a good idea ..I have been in this hobby since before simulators exsisted and have watched the diffrance between guys learning to fly with or with the simulator...It sure seems that they do much better with the simulator although the simulator can not take the place of the real thing...It just helps