Trish - Any traditional trainers is as I said, vetted, and are all good planes.

Any version of the Sig Kadet.
Any Hobby Lobby Telemaster.

Great Planes and Tower (both part of the Hobbico mafia) have some trainers that have been around for years.

If you want your plane to fly slower then build lightly, use lightweight equipment and use an engine in the lower range of what is recommended. If you still want power then you get a performance engine (not my actual recommendation but it gives a better power to weight ratio thus lower weight without giving up speed and climb).

Assuming you have pretty normal reflexes then don't worry about the speed so much. And please don't psych yourself out. The most important thing you can do is learn why an airplane flies. Too many people don't learn because they don't understand the basic aerodynamics. They think "up elevator" is what makes a plane go up and are always stalling into lower and lower altitudes.