I researched and found out the receiver bind/data port is for the battery, so that is where the BEC will connect.
As far as removing the red wire from the ESC, I was able to remove the connector in the plug which there is a small
plastic clip above the wire that lifts up so you can pull the connector out without any damage and will be able to push
it back in. I taped the wire back along itself covering the connector.
I want to thank EVERYONE for their help.