I have no experience with these so I can't help with programming but I don't think your motor will work with the esc. They say not to use a 4 pole motor, most car/truck motors are either 2 pole or 4 pole. Taking that into account, logically they intended this for 2 pole motors. Maybe I'm wrong and that's why they didn't say "use only 2 pole motors".

But consider this. A motor has 3 phases to it's windings. Each phase is fired by the esc once for each pole. So for a 2 pole motor the esc fires a total of 6 times per revolution, 12 times for a 4 pole motor, 24 times for an 8 pole motor. Now multiply that by the rpm and you can see the esc is firing the phases an awful lot. And it all depends on the Mosfets being able to switch on and off really fast. Some esc's can't switch very fast. The old Traxxas vxl3s is a well known example of an esc that will run 4 pole motors, but at about half the speed of a 2 pole since it can't switch fast enough. I haven't heard of anyone running the vxl3s with a 4 pole long enough to cause any damage to the esc but it may be possible damage will occur. I'd be very weary of running an 8 pole motor on an esc that says a 4 pole motor can damage it.