Hi Charles,
i have built 4 Elans and all of them needed up trim without washers under the aft elevator bolts. I always install them before drilling the holes in the tabs. I have also used JC Rabbits in all of them and never added any weight to balance.
not sure why one of your tabs is that far off. Never had that problem and I can’t visualize how that could be. I would investigate that before final assembly. Are you certain that the boom is fully inserted into the stab?
Ken