All it takes is lots and lots of practice, there is no "magic key" to learning it, just practice. Sounds like you could benefit from practicing a super slow verticle climb, as slow as the plane will climb without actually TRing, hang it on the prop like you're hovering and turn the airplane to the attitude that confuses you then see how long you can hold it in that position. Let it fall off a bit forwards and back so you get the feel of how to correct in the gear facing you and canopy facing you attitudes. There are only two choices, up or down... be gentle on the sticks at first so if you go the wrong way you it wont flop over too fast and you'll have time to catch it. If you lose it just do it over again and repeat your mistake 'till you figure it out. Another thing you can do is make a copy of the airplane you're practicing with, then make a copy of the engine thats on it, then go into the "edit engine" menu and turn down the "rotational torque" of the engine to slow the TRing down 'till its slow enough that your mind can keep up. Then as you figure it out and get more proficient slowly increase the torque until you have it set back to where it initially was.

Good luck, keep at it
Brian