r_coy!

Although others may disagree, the Deans Ultra connectors are really pretty bullet-proof ..... they do, however take a bit of expertise to solder to the leads, but at the end of the day, they are VERY reliable at high current over the long run. One thing is FOR SURE though, the stock "Tamayia" connector that comes with the stock LMH ESC is NOT what you want to run in your setup!!! I don't think anyone will disagree with that.
My suggestion would be, if you are "scared" about soldering, is to order a couple of extra pair of Deans Connectors to "experiment with", and then just do it!

AND, forget about a soldering "gun", OR a Bernz-O-Matic Torch!!! You need a 40 watt soldering IRON with a CHISEL TIP from Radio Shack (or any other vendor), let it get good and hot, keep it clean, and "do your thing"! If you have any questions about soldering, check out the construction / beginner / electric forums and you will get the answers.

Happy "connectoring",

Russ