RE: What windspeed grounds you?
When airplanes start flying out of their cradles before the wings are on, I generally call it quits.
When a trike gear plane does a ground loop taxing, that's too much.
When I do an engine runup with the plane tethered, and the mains come off the ground, that's it.
Otherwise, it's generally whatever I feel comfortable with. If it's no fun, then I quit.
Andy