I crashed me 4* .40 two prior.

that's a nice 4* star you have too...or you had.
I bashed my 4*....clip the wing, take out the diehedral
and all that good stuff, just so it can do more.
The personally like the SE more.
Defernently more capiable, but you can always tam it , by going to low rates.
It won't float like a 4* , but by no means it's a flying brick.
The thicker air foil just creates more drag that is all. Just keep
the power up a little bit more during landings. I didn't have any problems
at all.
As the instructions on the SE stated, You'll probably toss and twist
this thing around within minutes of your first take off. Which is exactly
what I did. It's actually a first virgin I'm ever put in the air from planes
I've built.
Plus the SE look much nicer if you sheet the deck.
I went looking for another SE at a HS...but it was sold out.
I'll have another one real soon I'm sure of it.