RE: Fix Aerobird Extreme or invest in a different bird?
Return the plane to the supplier, they should happily replace it FOC as the ABX has had quite a poor reputation with reliability. I have had two ABX's (from Wonderland Models via Helgar distribution), they both lost RC control at a few yards out and came down heavily causing damage. Both were replaced with no problems.
However, I would recommend carrying out all the mods (can be found on this Forum) to the ABX before your next flight as it will be more likely to survive the next crash. I would also recommend practicing on the Commander a little more until you get used to flying in different conditions. The Commander is pretty good in winds up to 10MPH, it won't cope with much more.