As with most "Trainers", The Tower 40 is as good as most. But, a good Instructor is primary !
A simulator is OK but will not replace the real thing . Use the Sim to practice coming at you where the controls are reversed. Just lean the aileron stick towards the lower wing and it will level out the plane. At the field, don't be impatient...Leave the loops and rolls till later after you can take off and land the plane with confidence.

Good luck ! Tiffany ? A Lady Pilot? Wonderful !!
Ugo