I have moved a number of times, and been exposed to a number of clubs. A couple have been extremely great, some are just nice guys that want to enjoy the hobby, and will gladly offer some help, and others are lousy organizations of guys that don't want anyone new getting in the way, particularly someone with a trainer plane and questions.
uonlylivetwice,
The situation you describe can be found in most if not all social activities
You gots to take the good with the bad....