RE: Where to start?
BigM,
Here's an idea for ya, go to your hobby shop most likely they will have a simulator on display. Fly that bad boy for a little while, see what you think. Personnaly guys that I've taught always do better if they fly a sim first. If you've got the $ I'd say just buy the sim, maybe someone has one for sale on RCU. Then you'll have some good questions to ask.
PS Bruce is right go talk to guys at the field, don't ask the guys who have the trainers, ask the guys who are teachin the guys with the trainers.