I'm in the hover-learning process too. (for the past 8 months)

Unless I have missed something, nobody's mentioned computer sims here. (oops, looking back I do see it mentioned) I spent a LOT of time with G2 and eventually got some basic reflexes developed for control inputs for all orientations of the airplane. You can also take advantage of the program's ability to run in less than real time so you can let your brain have time to think at first. Then you can gradually increase the speed as you gain proficiency. It's good for that, but of course, hovering the real thing is a BIT more complicated since you're not flying a perfect model under perfect conditions.

Those "push toward the low wing" hacks are helpful when you have time to think about it, but in my experience, you just have to get "hooked in" to the model and have a direct eye-to-thumb connection to successfully stay in a hover (and recover it when it falls out). Stay with it, it will come eventually.