Get the SSE. You've already had the 4* & got 12 good flights out of her. Now 12 flights doesn't sound like a lot but you can learn a lot in 12 flights. for instance, what ever cuased the demise of your 4* I'll bet you don't do that again anytime soon, if ever again at all!

Like ken said it can be a real handfull & get as crazy as ya like, but it doesn't have to be that way right off the bat. You can turn it down a good few notches until your comfortable & familiar with it, then have it!!