[:@] yeah you guys are funny actually i learned that tid bit of e- manors here once upon a time.

DO NOT BUY A NEXSTAR!! please. get a simple basic trainer such as a Sig LT 40 without any bells and whistles and travel a couple times at least to a club for help. the money you spend on gas will be saved 5 times over in planes. a trainer cord is worth a minimum of 5 new planes.

if you must (and it is a poor idea at best) teach your self. go with simple electrics. check with the electric forum for best e- trainers.
you want standard 4 channel set up just like a glow plane but in an easy to repair model...cause you will be a fixin'. read up in this sites "rc community""rcuniversity" "rc beginners" print out all you can on how and why we teach .... this will at least let you know what an instructor tries to do for a new pilot. other wise you'll flounder and quit. most atempts to self teach flying result in a pile of balsa tooth pics and a very fustrated ex rcer.