I had a hard time at first with the whole "the plane is coming at me" thing as well.. What worked for me was to quit thinking about it! I found that trying to think "wing down/so move the stick this way" was difficult.. What did work for me was to do a bunch of level traffic patterns while doing small "dutch rolls" the whole time. Basically rocking the wings up and down the whole time.. Not much, just 10 deg of bank or so..Do that a few times and your brain will be trained on what happens when you move the sticks.. The repitition will really help this to become instinctual for you..