Just tough it out and stick with it, anything worth doing is worth putting up with the hardship that accompanies it, It builds character. I am sorry to hear of your losses.

Now Outlaw,
I was young and strong once too and could still press you against the ceiling, That attitude will do nothing but get you trouble. I have learned over the years that there is always someone out there who is tougher and meaner than you and is just looking for a chance to prove it. If you want to gain the respect of your fellow pilots, you can't make threats. As we get older we tend to realize we are not invulnerable. We wouldn't put up with that attitude for a minute in our club, and believe me, it would be fun to take on a young punk again and teach them they are as weak as anybody else, It wouldn't be the first time.

No threats intended, just bare with the other members of the club and let them do thier thing, you do yours. If everybody thought alike it would be pointless to have elections and contests.
Don't make more of the hobby than what it is, if it stresses you out so bad then maybe it's not the hobby for you.

If you enjoy flying and love the hobby as much as I do you will overlook everybodies differences and get along. It doesn't sound like the field you have been flying at would miss you all that bad if you left if you want to crush them all, Ah, to be young and nieve.

Have fun guys, it's just a hobby.