the jgf 500 is a pretty good motor as osterizer has suggested. I use one in my MT with the stock esc and it rocks. I'm using a 14t pinion now but had a 13t on it before. More flight time and easier on the packs, wouldn't even warm up with a 13t in it. Put a 14t on it and it has some pop now! 13t would work great for a scale type flyer and you wouldn't even need all the power available.

For a sim, hands down phoenix is the only way to fly if you ask me.

For crash parts -

Main shaft
Feathering shaft
Main gear
Battery tray
Flybar
blades
extra package or two of linkage
blade grips
landing gear
Tail fin (buy the carbon one instead of plastic, the plastic breaks too easy and you will easily spend more than the cost of the carbon fin in a few crashes)


Probably more stuff but those are the most common parts to break in a crash I think.