"I tries that and it worked but when i move the throttle stick down the motor starts spinning the wrong direction so i disconnected the battery and i felt the esc and it was really hot! "


Well he said that he moves the throttle up to arm the esc, when it moves down the esc starts moving the motor, shouldn´t it be stopped? Unless he has the the throttle curve wrong, or setup for 3d, the motor should be stoped when throttle down.
Most esc´s are programmed with this procedure: throttle up, to see range of movement, throtle down, wait 1 or 2 secs, and than arm the esc. Alternative procedure: if no movement is provided on throttle, it waits 4 seconds and arms the esc.