If you're having trouble with an ARF, stay away from KITS! My kit builds always begin with reading the directions through several times, getting a picture in my head of exactly what each step entails, then separating and labelling parts. It usually takes a couple weeks before I make my first glue joint.

Seriously, just put the plane together, then find an instructor to help you fly it. Maiden flights are the most likely time for a plane to crash, so don't be afraid to ask for help. That's probably a lot of what's fueling your fear. You will eventually get to the point where you're not afraid to fly your newest plane. If you don't, you'll end up with a bunch of hanger queens.

Brad