I am new to 3D and am wondering whether some of you guys can shed some light of some questions I have, with regards the use of flaps.

1) From what I can make out the majority refer to “flaps” which go down as Flaps or flapperons, and “flaps” that go up as spoilerons (not sure about this one). Is this a fair assumption? or what should I be referring to them as?
2) I have a plane like a profile seduction, (extra slim) what would you expect the aircraft to do when I enter in a small amount of flap (down!)??. And what would I expect to see if I put flap (up)??. Which one do you guys use?
3) Do you guys use a mix, so that when you use flap, the elevator is automatically trimmed?
4) What is the best use of the “flaps”, take offs, landings, maneuvers??
5) My TX allows a mix, whereby when I turn the flaps on I can dial in some elevator to trim. The TX has 3 settings on the switch though and only allows for flaps in one direction, which is down. What trim do you expect I will need with a little down flap?

Sorry to ask such a lot, I would be grateful of any polite responses. I am due to try and work things out by trial and error but with direction from the experts, the learning experience will I’m sure prove more enjoyable.