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So, yesterday after about 7 months in the hobby, I got the "you love your planes more than me" speech from my wife[X(]

Now, I tried my best to wiggle myself out of this argument, but I don't think she bought it[:o]
Better get a good Christmas present for her this year;)

-tycho

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This is my first year of R.C. too but my wife of 37 years knew that I flew models as a kid. We were kind of kids when we got married. Anyway, I had to shelf the hobby for many years. We both enjoy our horses and playing golf and have friends in both. The six months before I actually jumped into R.C. I told my wife that is what I was going to do. I have an extra income during the spring and summer months so it is not a drain on the household budget. She was afraid that I was losing interest in horses which is her lifetime love. I am proving to her that is not the case. I am not doing any flying on weekends when we play golf and/or ride horses. I fly during the week in the evenings. Now that the weather and day light savings time is gone, I have done some weekend flying but the weather was not good for golf or riding either. So far its working. I am in this for the long haul so I have to be patient. I think as long as I don't over do it, it will work for us. But a nice Christmas present won't hurt either........ Good luck!!!!

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I don't fly during the weekends either, only weekdays after work for an hour or two, and usually twice a week.... but then I'm lucky I live 3 minutes from the field... Not flying on weekends and spending it with the family seems to work well and she doens't mind flying on the weekdays...

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Diamonds work well.

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Get her a buddy-box for X-mas.

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I got myself a mistress. Now when I'm caught sneaking out and the wife asks where I am going I say "to see my girlfriend." She says "you big liar...you are going to fly those stupid airplanes.":D

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Oh, oh.
Experienced speculation.

The issue had nothing at all to do with airplanes.
You still have no idea what the issue was.
You said too much.
You admitted things to which you were not accused.
Nothing was resolved.
You did not win.

Am I close?

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Tell her you could be playing poker with the guys, going to strip clubs, coming home in a drunken stupor. That might work. Of course, if you already do these things, you better get her a nice present.

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BillS... I lOVE that answer!!!

That is it!



and tychoc, Welcome... we have been expecting you!! Pull up a chair and grab a beer!:D

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She feels your neglecting her and your priorities are not in sync. So give her all the time she wants until she is smothered in it and just wants you to get out for a while so she can have some time for herself.

If you've been a lap dog for too many years, maybe it's time to drink out of a different toilet bowl!

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BillS - how did you know?, then again come to think about it, this applies to every argument. Hmmm....:eek:

The thing is, it wasn't even the flying so much since I only go once a week after work and occasionally on weekends. Supposedly I spent too much time with reading model magazines, building, browsing the web etc. when at home. It's an addictive hobby!

-t

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A friend of mine likes to remind my wife that it is better for me to spend time and money on planes....than on hookers!

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Whenever my wife accuses me of spending more time and loving my planes more than her, [sm=bananahead.gif] (this is seldom) I turn to her (cause I'm working on a plane) :D and tell her, "But I love you more than golf." [:-] After she slams the door shut, [sm=punching.gif] I have all the time I need to work on my planes. :D

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Sounds familiar.

I told my wife if she wasn't so miserable I'd spend more time with her.... Needless to say that didn't win me any points.

This reminds me of a joke, though:

'Why do men die younger than women?'

'Because they WANT to!'

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You guys should have met your wife like I did, at a model boat race(or the flying field). She knew exactly what she was getting into and she lets me play on a pretty regular basis. Over the last couple years she bought me a new boat for our anniversary one year and bought my trainer, radio and engine for an early christmas present this year. I can't complain. :D

BTW: I also treat her like a princess as much as possible.


Chris

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Man, I have friends that have gone through that. Explain to her that while you are in the shop working on the plane or at the field, your friends are out drinking and watching other women.

Invite her to go along. Do something she likes more, but if she is good, keep her happy! THE DATING WORLD SUX!!!!!! :(

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I treat my wife like the Queen she is, (for putting up with me) and she treats me like a god.....

She serves me "burnt offerings" for supper! :)

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LOL! :D

Mine's pretty reasonable, but occasionally puts the "brakes" on when I have a building/flying marathon....... [&o]
She knows what my priorities are - and she reminds me when necessary! :D
She doesn't fly(except once), and comes out to the field from time to time - to make sure I'm "really" flying! :eek:
It could be worse - I (her words-not mine!) "could be out at the bar picking up women and getting stupid" ;)
She helps me a lot - She goes away.... unfortunately, that gets expensive! [:@]

If she reads this, well...... see the title of the thread. [:o] (but it's all true!)

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I have been married to the same doll for 62 years. As for the modeling thing, I was building and flying before we even met and she knew that I wasn't about to give it up. She just knows by the day of the week if I'm going to the pond to sail, or to the field to fly. I try to buy her little things once in awhile to keep her happy. Trouble with that is she only likes two things, clothes and diamonds and her closet is full. When the credit card bill comes in I just tell her it's so high because of the things I bought for her. Never mention any of the model websites in our house.

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My first wife did everything with me when we were dating. After we got married all she wanted to do was stay home or go to her sisters. Finally she left me for a guy in AA. My new wife is very supportive of my hobbies and pretty much lets me fly whenever. She's an angel.

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I am very fortunate. My wife doesnt mind at all and even listens to my mindless babble while I debate on what airplane I want next. Sometimes she even goes out to the field with me. The only time I get in the doghouse is when I spend too much time surfing the internet for RC stuff.

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Do what we all are doing now--do the internet thing at work!!!:D That way you don't have to do it when you get home, and everyone is happy. Flying doesn't bother my wife as much as looking through web page after web page and rcuniverse! That really started bothering her about a month ago, so I quit doing it so much at home. Of course, my work has gone to heck, but that's another story!![8D]

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Glad im not married!
I buy, build and fly all the airplanes my credit card can handle.:D
I build in the mornings,fly in the afternoon and my dog has not had one complaint![sm=lol.gif]

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p-40: I'm with you, no wife, no problem! (Until of course it gets real cold and lonely at bedtime!! :( )

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What kind of meteorological phenomenon would make good flying, but bad horseback or golf weather? Just wondering, especially about the horses thing, 'cause my wife loves riding hers, and I get to be the designated hauler when she wants to ride somewhere other than around the farm (if you could ever watch her try to drive a crewcab dually with a 30 foot gooseneck, you'd completely understand why I designate myself as hauler); but it seems like you can ride in almost any weather, but flying is more limited; however, the weekends when the sun is out, no wind , and mild temps is when she wants to go the most. If I could get her to go ride in the pastureland we fly over, I'd be set.

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I'm with you guys whose wives have horses. Hehe, talk about expensive!!!! We got 10 in the barn. Our registered national show horse won grand champion status and he isn't even 2 yet. It was his first year at the horse shows and the wife showed him under halter.
Anyways, she never says anything about my planes. I just remind her of the 3 horse slant gooseneck trailer w/living quarters etc for all the horseshows that she goes to. Hmmm.....I wonder how hard it would be to re-config that trailer to haul planes...............

Dave...

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Not hard... Remove horses, insert planes.

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dont forget to shovle the crud out of it before inserting planes!;)
as far as wife goes, couldn't tell ya, but as far as ordering planes... a friend of mine ordered one but his wife didnt know, it shows up at the door and she says "were did this come from" he said "i was looking at the price and you had to put the card # in to see the price and i accidentally hit the wrong botton!" to this day she still thinks it was an accident!
i just think get her a big dimond and she will forget about it, for a day or two or as long as it takes her to get over what you bought her.

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I had a similar thing happen the other week. I made a "under the radar" order from Tower a couple of weeks ago, but had it shipped to my work. When the shipment arrived, half the content was missing and there was a gaping hole in the box. I called Tower, and they quickly resent the missing merchandise to my HOME address. Gee thanks guys...
So, there I was at work tracking the Fedex shipment steadily getting close to my doorsteps where my wife would be. Come to think about it, this might have contributed to the start of the thread[:o]

-t

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Her: You love your planes more than me!

Me: And your point is?

Her: My point is that you love your planes more than me!

Me: whenever I tell my plane to do something, it does it. If I told it to dive into the ground and destroy itself, it would do it. No questions asked. So my plane loves me more than YOU do. When I get THAT kind of cooperation from you, you'll have a case.

Then I pick up my clothed from the front lawn and beg to be let back into the house :D

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This kinda makes me happy I'm single:D

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Yeah, but who cleans and cooks for you so you can spend more time building and flying? Not really serious about that, but I must be just a lucky s.o.b., my wife hardly ever complains about how much I go flying. She and I both work our derrieres off at our respective high stress jobs, and she realizes the need to be able to "blow off steam". I go at least twice a week, usually all Sunday afternoon., and she does her thing, which is usually dance related stuff with our daughters, or horseback riding, also with our daughters; none of them really have an interest in my flying (as far as going to watch or learning how themselves), but seem to have some "underdeveloped culture amazement" that I can build something and make it fly. In the weekly maelstrom that is our lives, we all manage to do what we need to do, as well as what we enjoy. It's not like I'm always doing something other than what they're doing, we go on camping trips together, and the usual family stuff. The horse trailer does double duty as a plane hauler; it has a living quarters in front that I built, and I power wash the stalls after hauling the horses, so it stays clean for hauling airplane stuff, I can " camp out" at fly-ins.

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At least you get burnt offerings or offerings of some sort. My wife supports my hobby and I support hers' too; Scrapbooking.

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I guess I'm pretty lucky. My wife has her horse and I have my planes. She never gets upset when I go to the flying field because she knows where I am. I don't enjoy riding but am glad that she has a hobby that she enjoys. Whenever I order R/C stuff, I have it delivered to my office, but she never really questions what I spend. As long as I pay the bills and see that she gets "fun money" when she wants it, she doesn't complain.

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My wife points out planes and helis that I should buy because they're "pretty"

What a great gal..:D

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A few random thoughts on this subject that I have learned....

The,"it's better than drinking and strip bars" excuse doesn't work and should be avoided. She tells me to go to the strip bar because at least it would be a change.

Avoid talking about the hobby to her for more than three sentances per day because her eyes will just glass over with boredom very fast.

Plan ahead and tell her when you will be going out to the field, for some reason this is better than a spur of the moment trip.

I hate to agree with CyclicHardover, I mean SnoopDoggy, but spending time and giving her attention till she tells you to leave is the best solution.

Don't be spending the day with her and bring up that you could have gone flying but didn't, you'll lose all credit from spending time with her.

It's all about balance and not seeming to be addicted to the hobby even though we, and she, knows we are.

I am much happier being with her than I would be without her and trying to find a balance to keep us both happy is worth the effort, good luck.

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Guys

My wife encouraged me to get started in the hobby. Unfortunatly, we purchased an "As Is" house right after that. Now all our money is going into the house and very little, when we have extra, goes toward my plane. As it stands right now, I need fuel, glow starter, battery and some other stuff to get my trainer in the air. However, in the spring we are going to build a pole barn on our property that will have part of it designated as a hobby room. :D

When I got my plane, I was accused of having a "one track mind" about the plane. Everytime we got money, I wanted to get stuff for it. Didn't work because the house needed so much work from the get go.

Anyway, I am always in the doghouse about something around here. Can't seem to sooth the Italian blood in her. [&o] [:@]

Larry

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Well, I am getting married July 22nd, 2005. Needless to say, there are lots of wedding expenses being incurred, and more to come. Spending money on airplanes is seemingly at the bottom of the pole. However, I am still trying to complete my first plane (LT-40) so I can get in the air. Once I am flying and have something to play with, I will be able to glide through the wedding expenses with the trainer. By the time, I am in a position to really need another airplane, I will likely be able to afford one.

Holding a degree in Accounting (almost - one more semester), she knows not to question my ability to make sound financial choices. When I buy an airplane, I have already analyzed it and convinced myself that it can be done with relative ease.

I have gotten remarks about how the money spent on airplane stuff could be put into dinners out and other "us" things. She has a point there, but I then proceeded to explain to her that airplane expenses can be capitalized and amoritzed over the useful life of the stuff, which in most cases is many many years. I explain to her that nice dinners cannot be capilized and are immediately expensed when incurred, since there is no future benefit, besides the initial dinner. She typically has left the room by the time I finish explaining the finances involved.

Anyway, she has a good understanding of the situation. She is going to train for her full-scale pilot's license in a year or two. Since we are both young and spry, my goal is to get her involved in both full-scale and R/C (As I am). We would have a great thing to do together that we both shared a common interest in. Traditionally, airplanes fall under the "male" category. My attempts may fail - but I guess I can continue to hope!

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I was born in this hobby and my wife new it and I would'nt give it up neither, she knew that also.
Instead of the wife throwing my stuff out on the front lawn and locking me out of my house. I said, "If you dont like it there's the door. Dont let it hit you on the way out." I even helped her pack up her things in boxes. Now 8 years later I'm more that still happier than ever. I spend the money I've would have spent on her on bigger and better models. Build and fly all day long. etc. etc.

gunz

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So what you're saying is, you traded the wife in on some planes... kewl...